Semantics:
Why Wording Matters
By Mary E. Costello © August 2007
Independent Consultant
www.CreativeEdgeConsulting.org
When I was in college
at the Catholic University of America, I was lucky enough to have Mary J. Flynn,
MSW, as my Social Work professor. A
hard-as-nails, stoic, no-nonsense clinician and Irish mother of seven, Mary
remains, to this day, one of the people I called an “unknowing mentor.”
Although we lost
Mary many years ago, hardly a week passes that I don’t think about her and all
she introduced to my then-young mind. I
can vividly re-tell many of her amazing stories and when I speak about her, it
is always with distinct reverence. She
was, without doubt, the embodiment of what a Social Worker should be.
Other than the
jaw-dropping perfection of her words when describing what she said to clients
under certain circumstances, her unbreakable strength, and her endearing
absent-mindedness, I remember clearly how stubborn she could be. I think back on her teachings frequently,
especially when I argue with my customers over their favored, albeit,
ineffectual, program terminology.
Above all, Mary
was adamant that women are not girls, men are not boys, young adults are not
kids, etc. —along with a slew of other recurrent corrections that, at the time,
may have seemed like nit-picking. It
wasn’t. Incorporating this into my work,
and advocacy, in particular, words are everything.
My education about
the power of words continued throughout my early years as a Social Worker,
particularly as relates to folks with disabilities. It is still all too common for the general
public to view and refer to adults with developmental disabilities as “kids” or
“children.” Equally inappropriate, many
people will identify a group or person as “the disabled” or a “handicapped
man.”
While subtle, this
defines the person by their challenge rather than indicating this as only a
part of their being. Meanwhile, there
is much more to all of us than a diagnosis, societal challenge, or being a
recipient of a human services program. Although
labels cannot be fully avoided, watching our verbal and written communications
is a matter of respect. And, our choice
of wording reflects on us as professionals.
In this day and
age, I actually edited a document from a program founder that referred to her own
niece as “deaf and dumb.” I
cringed over this phrase for a variety for reasons. Not only is it an archaic reference—dating
back to usage in probably the 50’s or 60’s, but it further suggests that this organization
is probably not prepared to provide the type of residential services that
progressive Maryland would expect. (In
fact, I just checked the origins of this phrase, and it was coined by
Aristotle.)
Bottom line is… if
your language indicates you are not up to task, people will not take you
seriously. It simply points out that you
are inexperienced in a given field. And,
in direct correlation to what I do, I worry about helping an organization set
up shop if I feel, as an advocate first, they can’t provide quality services
and it in any way jeopardizes the well-being of the intended constituents.
With another group
I work with, preliminary documents referred to their service recipients as
“average Joe’s” and “the guys.” So, the question I ask you to ponder is just
this—if you are competing for funding, are you a “Mom & Pop” or an
organization that gains respectability by using professional verbiage?
Any non-profit
group that feels they need to purposefully stray from traditionally accepted and
accurate human services terms is opening themselves to a rude awakening. The particular group I refer to even fought
the use of the universally accepted words, “program” and “services.”
While they are
making slow strides toward understanding the importance of semantics, their funding
success or failure will rely, in part, on their language choices. To want to “dumb-down” terminology because
the founders are largely from the private sector and do not personally
understand the meanings is a mistake.
A case in point is
when the founder of this organization insisted that we not use the word
“modality.” He said no one would
understand it. Yet, it is very common clinical term that is understood and respected
in the non-profit realm. In fact, it
lends credibility—far more than average, lay-speak that constitutes no
psychological or proven basis for programming.
When you choose
your words, choose them carefully. You
must incorporate them into your daily communications—both written and verbal. Semantics matter, as a way to further
illustrate your competence and ability to provide the services you aim to
offer.
Consider the fact
that every other group out there is competing with you for the little funds
available. Plainly stated, if their
materials and program are better than yours, they win. Professionalism is absolutely critical, and
you must utilize words that highlight your capabilities and knowledge base. If you are lacking in either, you are not
ready to start a non-profit—or you need to hire someone qualified to fulfill
the administrative role.
If you insist that
you are not a “program,” do not provide “services,” and subscribe to concepts
rather than a “modality” or “methodology”—your fundraising should consist of
bake sales and car washes. “Feel good,”
informal or down-home neighborly talk is not good enough. Funders support programs that are innovative,
clinically sound, research-based, and strategically planned by capable
administrators with relevant experience and professional credentials.
The old adage
holds true—you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Your written materials are your vehicle to
sustainability. They paint a picture,
elicit emotional response, instill confidence, and demonstrate the importance
of your program.
As we say to
children all the time... “Use your words.”
About the
Author: Mary E. Costello holds
a BA degree in Social Work from the Catholic University of America in
Washington, DC. She is a former Social
Work Administrator who specialized in the management of complex human services
programs and leading new projects creation.
Forming Creative Edge Consulting in February of 2005, she now is
the “resident expert” on grant writing and non-profit program development
issues on the Boys Project website, a sponsored project of the University
of Alaska/Fairbanks. She serves
clients throughout the United States, including both community based programs and
those of national scope. Programmatic and grant related questions or inquiries
regarding her professional line of services may be directed to MaryCostello@CreativeEdgeConsulting.org. Mary will attempt to answer all general
questions from the public but cannot guarantee a personal response, dependent
on volume of requests at any given time.
Disclaimer: Any submitted email questions from readers
implies unrestricted authorization to use and/or reprint the content for
articles and spotlight email responses on the Boys Project website and
in all Creative Edge materials unless this permission is specifically
denied in writing prior to printing or publishing. Anonymity will be provided when requested or
otherwise appropriate. Content used from audience email questions or any other
means through this process provides no financial compensation whatsoever to the
respective audience member.